suck it up, for the kids

are you serious? what is wrong with you people.. you think that my children are confused enough already so you decide to have SEPARATE birthday parties because of that? You know darn well that my son wants both of his parents to be physically there for him for his birthday, and that that would make him happy, but because they're CONFUSED (which isn't going to solve itself ANYTIME SOON) you won't allow me to come celebrate with him? REALLY? who's thinking about the kids here, and who's just trying to hurt the other more...